You know better… so why do you keep doing it? Because knowing isn’t the same as practicing. Maybe there’s nothing “wrong” with you. Maybe you’ve just practiced an old response so many times that it became automatic. The question isn’t:“What’s wrong with me?” Try this instead: “What would I like to practice instead?” Change doesn’t happen through shame. It happens through practice. ❤️ #YoureNotStuck #ShowingUpFully #MindsetShift #Hypnotherapy #PersonalGrowth

I think a lot of us have an imaginary starting line. I'll start taking care of myself when things calm down. I'll work on the business when I have more time. I'll set the boundary when things aren't so complicated. I'll start dating when I feel better about myself. I'll finally do the thing when I'm more confident. When the kids are settled. When the money is better. When work isn't so crazy. When I'm less tired. When I know exactly what I'm doing. Then I'll start. Except the

Today my husband turns 59. And 29 years ago today, on his 30th birthday, we had a baby. Well…I had a baby. 😂 And biologically, that baby wasn't his. But you would never know it by the way he showed up. That baby is now a 29-year-old man, and somewhere along the way, the two of us went from being young people trying to figure out life to being parents, grandparents, and people who have now spent almost 30 years growing up together. That is crazy to me. When I look back at our

Have you ever promised yourself you were going to do something differently, and then found yourself repeating the same pattern a few days, weeks, or months later? You decide you’re going to stop overthinking. You’re going to set the boundary. You’re going to take better care of yourself. You’re going to stop procrastinating, stop people-pleasing, stop reaching for your phone every time you feel uncomfortable, and finally follow through on the thing you keep saying matters to

This week, I was invited to a Shanti Puja prayer memorial honoring the mother of some dear friends of mine. I have been incredibly fortunate to have Hindu friends who have welcomed me into parts of their culture and faith over the years. They answer my questions. They explain traditions when I don’t understand them. They invite me in. And I love it. Not because I am looking for a different faith or trying to decide who has the “right” answer. I simply love learning about peop

A client said something to me recently that I hear in different forms almost every week. "I just want to fix my body." I asked her why. Without hesitation she replied, "Because I'm fat, and I'm gross. I don't like being in my skin." But honestly... It could have been anything. "I just need to fix my anxiety." "I need to make more money." "I need to find the right relationship." "I need to get healthier." "I need to be more confident." "I need to stop procrastinating." "I need

My grandson Easton is six years old and has recently fallen in love with chess. Well... maybe "fallen in love" isn't quite accurate. He loves it when he wins. He doesn't love it nearly as much when he loses. After a game, he'll often say he wants to play someone he can beat. I understand. Winning feels good. It tells us we're capable. It gives us confidence. But it also made me realize something. How many adults are doing exactly the same thing? We choose the safe project bec

As I've been putting the finishing touches on my new Showing Up Fully program, I've found myself reflecting on moments throughout my life that quietly shaped the way I see the world. It's funny how memories work. Sometimes they sit quietly in the background for years, only to reappear exactly when you need them. One of those memories came rushing back to me this week. Our son was about five years old, and I was shopping for a bunk bed for his room. While walking through the s

One of the foundational ideas in my upcoming program, Showing Up Fully, is simple: You're not stuck. You're practiced. That statement changes everything. Because if you're practiced, it means you can practice something different. Most people think they're struggling because they lack discipline, confidence, motivation, or willpower. I don't think that's true. I think they're incredibly practiced. Practiced at doubting themselves. Practiced at waiting. Practiced at quitting wh

Have you ever noticed that the moment you decide to make a real change, everything seems to go sideways? You decide to leave a job that no longer fits, and suddenly unexpected expenses show up. You begin healing old wounds, and emotions you've avoided for years rise to the surface. You finally start believing in yourself, and opportunities seem to disappear instead of multiply. I've seen this countless times with my clients. I've experienced it in my own life. For a long time

We're getting a new roof today. The crew arrived at 6:15 this morning, ready to work. Before I even had my first cup of coffee, the pounding started. At first, it sounded like a thunderstorm rolling across the house. Then it became something else entirely, loud banging, scraping, crashing. When I looked outside, there was debris everywhere. Shingles scattered across tarps. Pieces of the old roof being torn away. It looked messy. It sounded messy. And if I'm being honest, it f

Have you ever walked into a room and immediately wondered if you fit in? Not necessarily out loud. Not consciously. But somewhere underneath the surface, there was a quiet question: "Do I belong here?" Most people think belonging is something that happens when other people accept us. When we're invited. Chosen. Included. Approved of. Praised. Loved. And while those things certainly feel good, they can create a dangerous belief if we're not careful: That our belonging depends

Have you ever noticed how two people can experience the exact same situation and walk away with completely different conclusions? One person loses a job and thinks, "This is a disaster." Another thinks, "Maybe this is redirecting me toward something better." One person gets rejected and decides they're not good enough. Another decides they're one step closer to finding the right fit. The difference isn't usually the circumstance. It's the story. Most of us don't realize how m

Have you ever noticed how quickly we decide something has gone wrong? Traffic slows us down. A meeting gets moved. A plan changes. A project takes longer than expected. Someone doesn't call back. A relationship ends. A job is lost. An illness appears. The thing we wanted doesn't happen when we thought it should. And almost immediately, many of us begin telling ourselves a story. "This isn't working." "I'm being held back." "I'm not enough.""Why does everything have to be so d

There’s a point in healing where self-awareness can quietly turn into self-surveillance. You start watching every thought. Questioning every emotion. Analyzing every reaction. You become so focused on understanding yourself that you stop allowing yourself to simply live. And at first, it feels productive. Because awareness is important. Awareness is often the beginning of change. But many people accidentally cross an invisible line where awareness stops creating freedom and s

There’s a difference between going through hard seasons… and becoming emotionally attached to struggle. And a lot of people don’t even realize it’s happened. You tell yourself: “I just work well under pressure.” “I can’t relax until everything is handled.” “I have to stay alert.” “If I let my guard down, everything will fall apart.” But what’s really happening? Your nervous system has gotten so used to surviving that peace starts to feel unfamiliar. I see this all the time wi

We decided to replace the baseboards in our master bedroom and bathroom. Not a big deal, right? Cut them. Put them on. Done. That’s what we thought. Then we realized… the door frames needed to be replaced too. Still. How hard could it be? Cue Paul getting to work. And suddenly… everything was torn apart. Dust everywhere. Pieces of wood. Tools out. Nothing looked finished. Nothing looked better. It looked worse. Way worse. And I found myself standing there thinking… this is e

Let’s be honest…when something doesn’t go your way, it’s really easy to think, “Here we go again.” Plans shift. People disappoint you. Something feels off. And just like that, your brain wants to go right back to old thoughts… old reactions… old patterns. But what if that moment isn’t the problem? What if that moment is the opportunity? This Is Where It Counts It’s easy to feel good when everything is working. That’s not where you grow. You grow right here… in the middle of i

I’ve been working with a client recently who, on paper, has it all together. Independent. Capable. Handles life.Doesn’t need much from anyone. And yet… There’s this quiet undercurrent of boredom. Disconnection. A sense of “Is this really it?” Not because her life is bad. Because something in her isn’t being lived. We Call It “Stuck”… But That’s Not What It Is When people come to me, they’ll say: “I feel stuck.”“I don’t know what I want.”“I can’t seem to move forward.” But wha