Stop Chasing the Butterflies

There’s a simple story I love, and I recently shared it with a client who’s in the process of growing her business.

If you want butterflies in your backyard, what do you do?

Do you chase them? Try to catch them? Stand outside flailing your arms and yelling, “COME BACK, I’M READY NOW!”?

Of course not. You make your yard a place butterflies want to visit.

You plant the flowers that nourish them. You create space. You tend the soil. You allow the environment to become inviting.

And here’s the most important part of the story:

In the end, whether the butterflies show up or not, you still have a beautiful yard.

What We Tend to Chase in Life

Clients aren’t the only butterflies we chase.

We chase:

• Lovers and relationships

• Jobs and titles

• Money and financial security

• Opportunities, validation, and approval

We convince ourselves that if we could just catch the thing, then we’d feel safe, fulfilled, confident, or whole.

But chasing almost always creates the opposite effect.

It tightens us. It speeds up the nervous system. It shifts us into proving, grasping, and performing.

And people, whether they’re clients, partners, employers, or opportunities, can feel that energy.

The Business Parallel (and the Life One Too)

My client said, “I’m trying to get clients.”

And I get it. We’ve all been there.

But when we’re trying to get something, clients, love, money, we often move into effort without alignment. Action without ease. Strategy without presence.

Butterflies don’t land in chaos.

They land where it’s safe.

Build the Yard, Not the Net

What does “planting flowers” look like, in business and in life?

It looks like:

• Becoming grounded in who you are

• Letting your nervous system settle into safety and trust

• Doing work that genuinely lights you up

• Speaking from clarity instead of urgency

• Making choices from alignment rather than fear

• Allowing money, love, and opportunities to meet you where you are

When you focus on building that kind of environment, something subtle but powerful shifts.

You stop chasing relationships that don’t fit. You stop forcing doors that aren’t meant to open. You stop hustling for worthiness.

And often, without effort, the right things begin to arrive.

The Quiet Power of Detachment

This isn’t about “not caring.”

It’s about caring without gripping.

You still show up. You still take inspired action. You still participate fully in your life.

But you’re no longer chasing butterflies with a net.

And even if the butterflies take their time?

You still have:

• A life you enjoy

• A business you’re proud of

• A sense of self that isn’t dependent on outcomes

That’s real success.

A Question Worth Sitting With

If you stopped chasing clients…Or love…Or money…

What kind of environment would you create instead?

Ready to Build the Yard?

If you’re noticing that you’re chasing clients, relationships, money, or a sense of “enough”, and you’re ready for more ease, clarity, and alignment, I’d love to support you.

Hypnotherapy and mindset work help calm the nervous system, shift old patterns, and create the internal environment where the right things can naturally find you.

👉 Learn more or schedule a conversation at leighkubin.com

You don’t need to chase the butterflies.

You just need to make the space beautiful enough that they want to land. 🦋

xxoo,

Leigh