Learning to Ask for What You Need

For most of her life, my client carried the role of “the mother.” She was the dependable one, the strong one, the caretaker. She was the one who knew how to give, pouring her time, energy, and love into everyone else. But in that giving, she forgot how to receive.

When she came to me, she shared that she wanted to learn how to ask for what she needed. It wasn’t that she didn’t have needs; she had plenty. She just didn’t feel comfortable voicing them. Somewhere along the way, she learned to believe that asking might burden others. That her worth was measured by how much she gave, not by how much she allowed in.

This is something I think we can all see in ourselves. How many of us have been conditioned to think strength means handling everything on our own? How many times have we bitten our tongue instead of asking for help, only to feel depleted and unseen?

The truth is, asking is not weakness. Asking is connection. When we ask, we honor our humanity. We allow others the gift of showing up for us. We recognize that giving and receiving are two halves of the same whole, neither more noble than the other.

As Wayne Dyer often reminded us, “You cannot pour from an empty cup. Fill yourself first, and you overflow naturally to others.”

Through hypnotherapy, this client was able to release the old belief that she must do it all. She experienced the relief of stepping into worthiness, the knowing that her needs matter, her voice matters, and that she deserves to receive as much as she gives.

And here’s the beautiful part: when she imagined asking for what she needed, she realized people wanted to give to her. What once felt like a burden transformed into a bridge of love and mutual respect.

This is not just her story, it’s our story. If you’ve been the strong one, the giver, the caretaker, maybe it’s time to ask yourself: What would it feel like to ask? To receive? To allow others the chance to support you? Because you are worthy. Your needs are important. And the world is ready to respond when you open your heart and voice to ask.

If this resonates with you, Hypnotherapy can help you rewrite the story you’ve been carrying and step into a new way of being, one where asking feels natural, safe, and powerful.

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